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08.17.19

MY HEALING RESOURCES PART 2

you know how when you decide you finally want to work out and get in shape, you dedicate like 3 days of hard work and think you should have abs already? (ha, well i did) i finally realized that this is what i was doing with my healing journey for a long time. knowing what I needed to do and actually DOING it are two very different things. we are SO stuck in our ways, comfortable (even with our pain), that we continue our patterns and behaviors year after year, over and over…frustrated when we receive the same outcome. until we finally decide we are exhausted. and only WE can decide when that time is. someone can recommend all the books, podcasts, workouts, diets…and you still might not be ready. you might read this, and it might not resonate, and that’s ok! i just hope it helps even one person feel less alone.

the problem is, we have to get comfortable with the UNCOMFORTABLE. accepting parts of ourselves we have tried so desperately to stuff down and hide. we have to actually feel the pain that we’ve experienced in our lives, that we don’t even realize are completely running the show. we have to start to listen to our bodies when we get overwhelmed with emotion and we feel tense and scared and anxious and sad…instead of just numbing those with food, alcohol, shopping, working, relationships…really feeling it fully. that’s the only way they will go away for good.

it’s uncomfortable (VERY), and people have a hard time with that. i know i did! but there was a little voice inside of me that started to become stronger. i started to finally see results, and was able to experience real JOY. and after a lot of hurt, anxiety, trauma, resentment, shame, and guilt…JOY is something you do not want to stop searching for. get addicted to joy! once you commit yourself to actually healing those dark corners and really living your life with more peace (and i really think i am only 50% there!) it all feels so much easier. lighter. more manageable. because life is already hard, but it doesn’t have to be that hard.

i wrote this first post a few months ago when i started to truly break through and find my true self. (which you will see feels a lot like a younger, innocent you. for me that was building forts with so much excitement, climbing trees without a worry in the world, picking cherries off the tree at my grandparent’s farm, riding my bike to school and feeling the warm wind rushing over my body.)

now i feel excited to share PART 2 (and it’s LONG but stick with me, ok?). i want these posts to be a place you can come back to if you are on that edge with yourself and need support, need resources, need to feel understood. a place that will inspire people, encourage healing, and ultimately bring people back to their own pure joy (because i really believe we all have that inside of us! it just feels harder to access the more pain you have endured).

last note before i start. sometimes it can feel over the top (i have struggled with it feeling self indulgent) to read all these books, spend time and money going to therapy and meditation and working out. it can feel endless and exhausting when framed the wrong way. i want to remind you that even the smallest changes (cooking a meal and focusing on mindfulness, or meditating 5 mins in the morning, or quickly writing down something you are grateful for that day) will start to SHIFT your mind. out of your old patterns and into a new place. don’t allow that part of yourself that wants to keep you in pain to discourage you.

believe me, i was a person that watched tons of reality tv, never read books, didn’t really workout, ate badly, drank too many nights a week, had co-dependent relationships, had little boundaries, avoidance issues, i was a workaholic….i tried all the ways to hide from my pain. it was a slow shift, and will probably change for the rest of my life, but i promise if you start small you will see results!! haha, man, i sound like a motivational speaker, but i guess i just have to be ok with that.

and remember, this is just MY journey. we all have such different lives. we all feel and experience pain differently. i never want to come off as a know it all, or arrogant, or like i have it all figured out. because i most certainly don’t. but i also know the changes i have felt are too big not to share and start concersations around! nothing but love for you all!!!

LIBRARY CARD

ok let’s start with a helpful tip that changed the game for me. having a library card allows you to use apps like Libby, Hoopla and Kanopy to rent FREE books, audio books, and movies. you can literally take yourself back to school, for free! (my husband calls my kindle my pacifier haha) i really encourage this because something that i want to address is that sometimes it can feel really overwhelming and EXPENSIVE to do all of this. but it really doesn’t have to be. and resources like this really take away our own excuses. they are free and available to everyone. if you don’t have time to read a book? listen to an audio book while you drive to work. you will want to start prioritizing your time to feel better. because when we feel better, everyone around us benefits too.

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11.02.18

HI THERE

happy friday everyone. i am sitting alone on my couch in my robe and 4 blankets (i am becoming that person and i love it) i thought i would just come check in because i haven’t in a while. the past month has been kinda strange…

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07.13.18

AMAZON PRIME DAY!

Amazon Prime Day | designlovefest

i’m a big fan of amazon and utilize my prime membership ALL the time. from last minute orders of cat food, to kitchen tools and anything and everything in between. i’m excited to be partnering with them to celebrate prime day (and a half!) and all of the deals you can score on July 16th. prime day last year got a little stressful, things sold out super quickly and it’s hard to know where to start shopping and what to look for. i put together a few prime day shopping tips that you can utilize and make it simple.

amazon prime day | designlovefest

  • make a list of items that you need before you shop the sale. i have an on going list of items that i’m looking to add to my kitchen, things like a new paring knife or kitchen towels. i know what i need so when it goes on sale i can grab it. on prime day, you can save up to 30% on AmazonBasics items, and one of the things i recommend adding to your list is a cast iron skillet. it’s one of my favorite things in my kitchen, great for everything from frying eggs, to roasting a chicken, cooking a steak, etc.
  •  stock up on your everyday essentials, things like razors, vitamins, paper towel, etc. items that you buy frequently and can save on by stocking up.

Amazon Prime Day | designlovefest
Amazon Prime Day | designlovefest

  • buy basics for the bedroom and bathroom, a sale is a great time to refresh your bathroom towels or buy new bedsheets. this blanket (pictured above in pink) is super soft and 100% cotton which is important to me when it comes to bedding, it makes it really breathable! i also love this striped linen duvet which is going to be part of the sale as well.
  • buy investment pieces, there are things like new knives, a powerful blender, juicer, etc that might be on your kitchen wishlist and now is the time to snag them. i’m particularly fond of my Vitamix (this version is available exclusively to amazon prime members).

Amazon Prime Day | designlovefest
amazon prime day | designlovefest

you can utilize there watchlist in the amazon app by adding items you’re eyeing and then you’ll be notified when they goes on sale. what’s on YOUR prime list that you are thinking about getting?!

this post was sponsored by Amazon.

04.11.18

WINE TALK

wine talk | designlovefest
 image from wine mag

i’ve read a couple of articles recently that say wine consumption is at an all time high in america which made me think about my own wine drinking habits and realized that is definitely true for me as well. i used to be a mix of a wine and cocktail drinker. especially when eating out, i’d generally order a cocktail but now a days i’m almost exclusively ordering wine.

i also drink more often, i’ll have a glass most nights of the week and i’ve definitely gotten way more picky when it comes to what i drink. it feels like more than ever people are talking about natural wines and knowing where your wine comes from and that trend has certainly caught my attention. mostly because i’ve tried the natural wines and i feel so much better when i drink them, no headaches or foggy mind in the morning. i also used to purchase at the grocery store and just pick up whatever bottle caught my eye but now i find myself visiting a local wine shop instead, something i never really did because i thought wine shops only carried expensive bottles but i find lots of options under $20 which is sort of my threshold, anything under $20. i will say though that the increase in wine consumption has certainly increased my monthly food +beverage expenditures! but, i do find that i drink more often at home, having a friend over for a glass, rather than going out and paying $13+ for a mediocre one at a bar.

anyway, i’m curious if you find yourself drinking more wine these days? or if you’ve jumped on the natural wine bandwagon? do you drink during the week or only on the weekend? do you feel like your drinking preferences have changed with age? part of me thinks that my gravitation towards wine is just part of getting older. i’m always curious about people’s drinking habits. and if you have a favorite wine maker/label that you love and would recommend. i recently bought a few bottles from amplify wines, they’re a husband and wife team here in california and i just opened their white blend last night and it was delicious.

wine talk | designlovefest

i mentioned to my doctor that i was drinking red wine almost nightly, something i thought he’d try to get me to stop doing but he said he didn’t think it was a problem. he said if you’re having more than two glasses i’d tell you to cut back but 1-2 is fine. i thought that was surprising!

in the opposite direction, i’ve also noticed that there is an increase in people talking about going completely sober. how stopping drinking changed their life and i’m equally curious about that. have you thought about giving up drinking entirely? or have you already done it? – joanie

wine talk | designlovefest

all images via wine mag

09.29.16

A LITTLE UPDATE

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happy ALMOST weekend! it’s sure been hectic over here in our office. a little life update below…

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